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(edith wharton)


Monday, 31 August 2009

in shock

I had a wonderful post all ready to put up here.. about a walk that I went on today.. but instead, I need to post about my grief. You see, the Wise Woman group that I have been going to every fortnight for 18mths has disintegrated into pieces.. a million pieces it seems. circumstances, personalities and emails have put a wedge between members, things happened that shouldn't have and the woman who first gathered us together has decided to disband the group. I am just devestated. I am going through grief and feel like I have lost my tribe. And right now, I don't what to do or who to turn to. ... and here I was trying to turn my blog into a happy place. But I had to be true to myself with this.. getting it out will help.
I just cannot stop crying about it. I feel lost.
if only people would think twice before pressing the send button.
me included.

22 comments:

Winterwood said...

it is possible that once the dust settles a new group will rise from the ashes? I know how you feel when something like happens!

Winterwood said...

ps - would it be possible for you to form your own group? get the interested ones together and start a new one?

Serena said...

(((Robyn))), I am so sorry that you are faced with all this upset as I know from previous posts that you have held the Wise Woman group very close to your heart. I'm not sure what else to say except that we are here to offer support and caring....you don't have to deal with this alone. xo

amelia said...

You could possibly start your own group maybe?
It might take time and not be all plain sailing but I'm sure it would be worth it for you..

Fire Byrd said...

I think Winterwood has a great idea going .
You'll have to weather the storm and then see how you all feel about carrying on.
Sending you big hugs to hold you tight.
xx

Holly said...

I am certain that it isn't the same since we can't be with you in 'real' time. But, you know that this group of women is here for you.

Still, I know with some issues, some practices, some topics, you need to be 'with' someone in the same space as you.

The thinking before you hit send? Yeah, that's a critically important lesson for all of us. It's so easy to mis-read intention via the computer.

I know from an experience not too long ago.

For what it is worth, please know that we are here. And, never edit your blog; keep it as real as your feelings. Good times and bad...your followers want all the parts.

onasilentsea said...

words are so powerful, aren't they? i hope that once everyone calms down from whatever it was, that some of you will be able to regroup or maybe start something fresh and new.

docwitch said...

Oh no! That's really sad. It's quite traumatic when our little communities disintegrate. These connections mean so much - spiritually, socially -they are a wonderful glue and there's such a hole left when for some reason they are no longer there.

Perhaps as Winterwood suggests, something new may rise from the ashes...

Best wishes and peace to you Robyn.

Paula - Buenos Aires said...

{{{Sitting by your side, arms around your shoulders}}}

Human relationships are always in motion. From my own experience from disbanded tribes, there is always a chore group that goes on together. Sometimes you choose to join them, sometimes you choose not to join them and do your own thing with one or two of the non joiners.

Wishing you the best possible outcome for you.

Moncha said...

Hi Robyn,
I'm so sorry to hear about the group. I know you loved that group and all it stood for.
I agree with Winterwood, maybe a new group will form again. I do hope so for you !!!
Just know that I will be thinking of you and hoping for a good ending to this story !!!

Diva Kreszl said...

I'm so sorry that you are experiencing such sorry, wish I could give you a hug right now! Perhaps something new and wonderful will come of all of this...perhaps a new group? Remain open to new possibilities!

Kavindra said...

Oh Robyn! The same thing has happened to me a few times. Sometimes it goes like Winterwood said tho, a new group forms, or the old group settles their differences. Email is the worst thing for women's groups I think (and yes it was 100% my emailing fault once.)

I hope there is some hope of salvage or reconstruction ... it has sounded like such a warm wonderful place from your descriptions.

Hugs

Rose said...

Oh I do hope all is not lost.... It is always sad when a good group dissolves but this is what happens in life, it just normally is a more gradual process as people move on to new things or the group itself changes in purpose. Sudden change is rarely pleasant. I do hope that when the things settle something is able to fill this hole for you. It would be lovely to think that the group could be ressurected....

Laurie said...

Oh Robyn,
I am sorry to hear this ~
Sending you big hugs

"Cradle your wounded places
like precious babies."
~ SARK

Love you ~
Laurie

Meredith said...

Dear Robyn, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I picture you crying over a lost network of beautiful relationships because of a "send" button pressed too hastily, and I feel very, very sad.

Even if something does rise from the ashes, as so many are suggesting, I still think it's okay to feel how you're feeling, wonderful that you feel safe and strong enough to post about it, and that you'll probably just have to go through the grieving process first. Sigh. Sending you a big hug and some comfort food...

gemma said...

Wish I had some wise words...You do know there are many of us here for you. Be true to yourself and follow that inner sweet knowing spirit. That is truely what matters. All else will fall apart or into place as it should.

Kathryn Knoll said...

A River of Grace flows through you and me and all life on this planet, great and small alike. It is an energy that does not support in any way self-service, what we want and think is best for us. As this great wave of Grace is upon us, everything that does not support the new possibilities will disintegrate to make way for something that will be for all life on Gaia. This is why we are seeing everything around us shifting and some of it is even disintegrating. The good news, however, is that it makes way for something even better. We can mourn our losses, as well we should, while at the same time be asking for guidance to help create something new that is needed. Many of us find our selves realizing that we are looking to heal Gaia. How can we heal Gaia for all the life forms that dwell on her and not just for the sake of the human community. Let us gather to heal all that lives and not just ourselves....Something new is about to be born! Patience, my Dear....

laoi gaul~williams said...

oh robyn i am so sorry about your group.i have been away from blogger while i work on the last bit of my work and missed this.
i know so well how it feels when a group crumbles into nothing and how so upsetting it is.
i echo winterwood, how about setting up your own group? i know you have the strength and passion to make it happen
xooxox

A bird in the hand said...

The sad thng is that this sort of thing happens all too often. I have no explanation except that with a mixture of personalities and whatever is going on in people's lives inevitably intrudes even in places of healing and peace. Perhaps another door is about to open for you. Perhaps it means you create your own group. But whatever the case, be strong and don't waver from your purpose. xoxo

Jo said...

I'm so sorry Robyn, this happened to me once with a Reiki support group, its so upsetting. Maybe those bloggers you are close to can be a bit of a soul group until you find something to replace it.

Sorrow said...

(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

Rapunzel said...

I am so sorry! I have had that happen to me in e-mail groups as well and it's just devastating. Allow some time for your heart to heal, dear friend, and then decide where to go from here. Big hugs to you, Robyn.