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"She seemed to come suddenly upon happiness as if she had surprised a butterfly in the Winter woods"
(edith wharton)


Thursday, 26 February 2009

as they say - thems the breaks.

the outlook for Paul my brother in law is not good. Today he was given the news that he has maybe a year. the tumour is inoperable and radiation will only delay the inevitable. he will be kept comfortable but each day we visit he is downhill even more.
that is all I can say right now.. it's not fair is coming to mind.. or why him? why not someone else who is not a nice person. someone who isn't a wonderful father and husband.
but no words can change this. I could shake my fist at God or I could stamp my feet in anger..but that doesn't do a thing. like they say. thems the breaks.

we go on with our lives right now.. with a kind of sadness knowing that we cannot do a thing. with an emptiness that we know is coming for us. an ache in our hearts. we must keep living though. I know that. we must laugh. we must be thankful that we have had this wonderful soul in our lives and be blessed by him.

so I ask each of you to keep him in your prayers, your heart, your thoughts or wishes.. whatever it is you do at times like this. that he may not be scared, that he may be comfortable and that he may know he is much loved xo

29 comments:

Serena said...

I'm so sorry, Robyn....I will definitely keep your BIL on my prayer list in hope for a miracle. (((Hugs)))

love, light and peace,
serena

solsticedreamer~laoi gaul~williams said...

oh robyn i will keep him, all of you in my thoughts
xoxoox

Pam said...

I really do not know what to say Robyn other than I am so sorry the news was not good.Bravery and strength are words I want to use, but I feel rather inadequate in an expression of how I feel.In this uncertain path ahead, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Sheila said...

This is such sad news Robyn. My heart and prayers go out to your family. My biggest hope for Paul is freedom from pain, and freedom from fear. I can't begin to imagine how he is feeling right now.
Love to you all
{{{hugs}}}
xox

Tracy said...

Continuing in prayer, Robyn...

{{hugs}}

Caitlin said...

Holding you in a cyber hug Robyn and thinking of you and your family - and saying a prayer for Paul.
C
XX

Genie Sea said...

This is sad indeed. I am so sorry. I will continue to send prayers, because miracles can happen. A dear friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer 10 years ago. They gave her a year to live. She went to a Reiki practitioner in California. When they tested her the next time. She was clear of cancer. I experienced this, so I know. Anything is possible :)

Fire Byrd said...

I think for me, it's actually more important that I keep you in my heart, as you deal with more pain. And you will have to be so strong for those around you, especially your husband. As if you haven't had enough...
hugs
xx

Billie Jane said...

I hope that he can find the strength to see the small blessings in this. We are all going to die, we just don't know when and many, like my mother, go suddenly, unexpectedly, without having the opportunity to say goodbye or make peace, or take back a thoughtless word. No one knows how they would face this moment but I send all my kindest thoughts to you and your family that you all find a way through this that will enrich you all. x Jane

Sorrow said...

Give him a hug from me,
and tell him how grateful I am that he was in your life, that he is loved by a stranger, and that I will keep in in my thoughts, my prayers, always.

Angela said...

So sorry to hear about your BIL.

Kathryn Knoll said...

What can I say, but, I am sorry for this news and my prayers are with you. Some 7 years ago I was where you are. My dear friend was diagnosed with a brain tumor and there was no real help for her either. Looking back, though, it was one of the most powerful experiences of my life and hers too. She lived less than a year, but it was the most awesome and blessed time of her life. This is when she and all of the rest of us in her immediate circle of loved ones really learned to live life to the fullest. This is a gift to be cherished, even though, it means the end of a loved one's life on earth, it can be the beginning of real life for him and all involved. I don't know why it takes this kind of thing to bring us to our senses and teach us what really matters. My thoughts and prayers are with you! Sr.K

Annie said...

Every thought is a prayers, Robyn. Love, Annie

Deedee said...

Oh Robyn, I will certainly pray for those things for him, and for you too.

A bird in the hand said...

My dear Robyn, I am so sorry. All you (all of you) can to is to make Paul comfortable and happy in the time he does have.

Much love, Colette

Paula - Buenos Aires said...

{a big warm hug for you} My thoughts are with you and your family.

Janet said...

oh, Robyn, that is such sad news. I will keep your BIL and the rest of your family in my thoughts each day.

Moonroot said...

So, so sorry to hear this. Sending hugs.

amelia said...

So sorry to hear your bad news. What a rotten shame. One can only hope that he doesn't suffer and that his quality of life is not too bad..

My son is leaving for Melbourne tonight followed by Sydney. A week in each place. I have given him your email and your address and he says if he can he'll call. Don't count on it though, because I know his business trips are busy but you never know!!

Amy said...

I'm sorry Robyn, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know how it feels, my grandmother had breast cancer a few years ago so yeah...hoping it gets better for your brother. Cancer is an awful thing...

Wendy said...

How sad. I am so sorry, Robyn. I know what it's like watching a loved one deteriorate and die. It sucks!
Will keep all of you in my heart....
Blessings.

peppylady said...

{{{Hugs}}}}

Night Owl said...

I'm so sorry Robyn, I'll keep you and your bil in my prayers x

Ruth said...

Kathryn has said it all really, so all I can add is that I am holding your hand. xxx

Winterwood said...

Robyn I often wonderhwy these things are snt on the most wonderful of people... there is no answer. As long as he is pain free and comfortable that i n itslef is comfort for those around. Will keep him in my prayers thought.

I bought a kilt pin as it was such a good idea and ended up looking in so many stores as no one seemed to have one! found one eventually!!

Dia said...

Many blessings & Reiki {hugs} go your way for you for Paul!
I've posted over at the 'Vale' about coconut oil - one of the things in the list of 'improved' is tumors - I've begun cooking with it again, & have used it for massage off & on for years, . . .

I clipped a bit of Rosemary here (springish) the other day, too - some was damaged with winter frosts :)

Blesings & love
xoxo
Dia

Tori said...

I am so sorry Robyn. I hope with all my heart that Paul is not scared, is comfortable, and knows how much he is loved.

Julie said...

Robyn,

I am sorry to hear your sad news. My heart is with you.

Hugs.

kim said...

hugs....i am so sorry.